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Hello! Long time no post. I just realized that when I changed my name from Ezagaaikwe to Desdemonaspace, I lost any Dreamwidth friends I had, because, to save money, I didn't change the Dreamwidth account, too, I simply deleted it and imported the renamed LJ account to Dreamwidth. Thus, all my Dreamwidth friends are gone. Please refriend me, or give me reading access, or whatever it's called. I will friend you back.

What's new? I have become vegetarian, somewhat against my will. Now, I used to feel that vegetarians were somehow haloed with nobility, and if I became one, I'd be all smug and superior. Not a chance! I'm hungry all the time and feel deprived, like I'm on a diet I can't go off. It's more like coming down with a disease... call it ATMS ("Aversion To Meat Syndrome.")

How it began is my best friend Bobbie's brother moved into my building. He was in the neighborhood and I'd see him around, and since he hunts, he promised me a duck. When he moved in, Bobbie came to visit me and went up to say "Hi" to him. (I don't see much of him; I dated his brother for about 15 minutes in the 70s, and therefore I'm sloppy seconds, or something. He will not voluntarily visit me.)

She came back about 20 minutes later with a softball--sized plastic bag containing a frozen wood duck, which I put in my freezer to thaw and eat later. It felt too small to make a meal for two people.

So, later, I thawed it and prepared to make cassoulet. As I unwrapped the duck, I muttered to myself, "Please don't have a head, please don't have a head." Which it did not, also no skin or feathers, and it was so small! Also, no bird shot in the meat. How did he kill it?--harsh language? Not that there was much meat--it was like trying to cook a parakeet. Have you seen wood ducks?--they're lovely.

Anyway, I made my cassoulet - a huge batch, and froze 9/10 of it. But I couldn't eat it. I kept picking duck meat out of it and giving it to the cats. They LOVED it, and channelled their bad wild carnivorous selves all the while. It was almost worth it, how perky it made them; they loved it so.

I ended up throwing it all out. Every time I attempted to eat meat, I spit it out, and finally stopped altogether. It's easier to make great vegetarian meals. I'm starving all the time, and like they say about Chinese food, I'm hungry an hour later.

I have several go-to meals that hit the spot: a potato-leek soup (vichysoisse or potage parmentier), and a pretty good General Tso's tofu. I have a Thai red curry & fish recipe I adapted to use silken tofu, and a chickpea cutlet recipe [personal profile] claudia_yvr gave me, that looks and tastes like weiner schnitzel, and this, which I'm having tonight, and and this, about which I want to say, double the spices, skip the water, and DO NOT put in a crockpot--it cooks on top of the stove in half an hour, tops. It's delicious.

Need more! I welcome comments, links, your fave vegetarian recipes. I'm lacto-ovo- for now, but that could change. Like Buffy, I love cheese.

In other news (and this is a heavily-screened post) Patricia is or was pregnant. If you knew her - how fragile her health is, you'd understand my dismay. She may not drink but she's definitely okay with drugs, and I overheard her tell the Micky D's counter person she wanted ten sugars for her coffee. She is diabetic!

I immediately thought she could not carry a pregnancy to term. She has three shunts in her liver and no prospect of a new one, and is nearly homeless.

I told her, "This isn't South Dakota; if you don't want to go through this, you don't have to, and you don't have to do this alone."

She said she'd think about it.

Before you start defriending me, please know I got a second phone call from her that evening. She was in the hospital and had just received an injection. The pregnancy was tubal, and the injection is to terminate her over the course of the next five days.

I asked Frank to keep an eye out for the grandbaby heading his way.

Date: 2014-04-20 05:11 pm (UTC)
velvetwhip: (Tasty)
From: [personal profile] velvetwhip
I finally found you here! Yay! *dances*

*hugs you lots*


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Date: 2014-02-22 07:34 pm (UTC)
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So good to see you post.

Sometimes I wish I could go vegetarian, but there's just no way. Bacon is not negotiable.

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Date: 2014-02-22 07:56 pm (UTC)
usedtobeljs: (Anya we persevere knowing)
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I applaud your going vegetarian! I'm not, but I do 2 meatless days a week (which is about all I can take without cravings).

Hugs and sympathies for the continuing Patricia drama, and hugs and good thoughts for you.

Date: 2014-02-22 08:03 pm (UTC)
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Oh, goodness. This is where "health or life of the mother" comes down to the bite- and before this modern politicisation, tubal pregnancies and pregnancies in women with chronic illnesses which were exacerbated by pregnancy were pretty routinely referred for termination by my local Sisters of Providence hospital. So very fevered imagination has gone into the political process in the past 40 years!

My thoughts on vegetarian eating: lots of variety, lots of cumin or your favorite bitter aromatic spice, and monitor both fats and proteins- in fact, it's easier to get complete protein by combining seeds and grains than to get sufficient EFAs and fat-soluable vitamins, in my observations of my long term veg*an friends.

Julia, who is actually supposed to be woring outside now, oops.

Date: 2014-02-22 08:24 pm (UTC)
gillo: (Mediaeval O)
From: [personal profile] gillo
I was thinking about you only this morning and hoping you were OK. No defriending here - you already know what sort of mother Patricia would make, but I'm sorry she has to go through the distress and pain of an ectopic pregnancy.

My not-son-in-law is vegetarian and pretty much a cheese fanatic. He does find his energy levels can drop suddenly if he doesn't eat when he needs to. I'd suggest going for things like tartiflette, (or this version.)with veggie sausages replacing the bacon. (Any good melting cheese would do, I think.) Protein is supposed to be best for hunger control, though - are you eating enough? Nuts and pulses are good for this.

Nice to see your pixels again!

Date: 2014-02-22 08:44 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Your body is telling you it doesn't want meat for now and that's okay. Good that you are listening.

I think it ended up a blessing that the decision about Patricia's pregnancy was made for her, but no fears about defriending - I'm a pro-choicer of longstanding.

I have missed you. It's so good to hear from you.


Date: 2014-02-22 08:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I have a friend who is the same about meat, which is why she is vegetarian, too. Can you eat quorn? Then you can at least make some 'meat dishes'.

As for your advice to Patricia - I think it was eminently sensible, to be honest. And good that she didn't end up dead with an ectopic that ruptured.

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Date: 2014-02-22 09:28 pm (UTC)
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Hey, mishmash over on dw.
Hugs to yourself and Patricia. I think their is less stigma in Britain.
Poor duck!
Sorry brief but poorly girl in my arms. Xx

Date: 2014-02-22 09:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Vegetarian recipes .

And I friended you over at Dreamwidth.

Date: 2014-02-22 10:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I just added you at DW. I'm pondhopper there as well...
I'm never there except to back up this journal but it's good we keep in touch.

So all meat suddenly became disgusting to you?
Being lacto-ovo and fish eating you won't lack for much in the way of protein.

Our bodies are wise so perhaps there is a reason for that. In any case, dear petzi is the recipe queen and I hope some of hers will help you out. She is such an excellent cook (though not a vegetarian!)

Why should I defriend you for advising Patricia to get an abortion? With her history, lack of health and problems it's wise. And now an ectopic pregnancy which wouldn't be viable anyway.

It's good to see you here, my dear.

Date: 2014-02-23 03:13 am (UTC)
ext_15108: (Rhodie)
From: [identity profile]
Most of the recipes in my memory file are vegetarian and public.

So sorry to hear about Patricia's pregnancy. I hope the termination goes smoothly and that perhaps the time in the hospital will help build her stamina. She sounds like she's in bad shape.

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Date: 2014-02-23 06:57 am (UTC)
fishsanwitt: (Red Roof)
From: [personal profile] fishsanwitt
Oh M - many ::hugs:: I don't know what lacto-ovo means - I'll have to go look it up. I enjoy vegetarian meals a lot, although we do eat a lot of chicken!

We are buried under snow snow snow here. How is it with you?

I'm sending many more ::hugs::

Date: 2014-02-23 09:15 am (UTC)
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From: [identity profile]
Can you eat nuts? You need to have some more protein in that diet and that will stop you feeling hungry. Seeds, nuts and pulses help bulk out vegetarian food and provide the missing nutrients. Also have you considered adding some fish? I know that's not veggie but you might be OK with the taste even if you don't like the meat.

Oh dear - Patricia. I'm sorry she is still such a worry for you.

Date: 2014-02-24 03:12 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Hey there! I've been thinking about you lately. Now that I'm back in the area, more or less, we need to reconnect.

How peculiar, the meat thing. Soundingsea would be a good source of vegetarian recipes.

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Date: 2014-02-24 06:24 pm (UTC)
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HI! I have no suggestions on vegetarian recipes, just saying hello.

Derek and I are planning an Alaskan cruise this summer for our 20th anniversary (of dating, not marriage), and I should pick your brain about cruise lines and what to see/do and take.

Date: 2014-02-27 09:11 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Oh, dear. I keep thinking that Patricia has already hit rock bottom, and then she surprises me yet again.

If you miss chicken, try Soy Curls! (They're usually cheaper than that, about $4 to $5 for one package so get them elsewhere. One package makes about three to four times its weight in soy curls, as they are soaked in hot water before usage. In other words, an 8oz package makes about 1.5 to 2lbs of "chicken.") I love them and use all the time. Lots of protein, no additives, non-GMO. One of my favourite recipes is Curry Chikn Salad, which I make with raisins instead of currants.

There are lots of recipes out there, as these are very popular among vegans and vegetarians alike. Basically, you can use them in place of cooked chicken in recipes.

Don't hesitate to let me know if you want more vegetarian recipes, with or without Soy Curls. There should be no reason for you to feel hungry, there are so many yummy choices out there. (And here are some tips on coping with bacon cravings.)

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Date: 2014-03-14 04:33 pm (UTC)
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This is what happens when I stop reading for a few weeks, you post! :)

Vegetarian Times website has a good selection of all kinds of recipes. You can also call me anytime for ideas. I've been lacto-ovo for 23 years now. The key to not being hungry is to keep snacks around and try to eat something every 2-3 hours. I know that sounds like a pain, but not as much of one as being hungry. (If you don't have my number, let me know and I will send you a pm on fb.) I do hate that you are feeling deprived. I chose to stop eating meat to get away from a very restrictive diet my family was on due to my father's heart/health. (I had eaten chicken every day for 5 years. Enough was enough.)


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